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Grace Under Fire's avatar

The language of gender ideology is all about making women acquiese to demands from others to use them as comodities. A "womb carrier" can rent out or even donate her womb. A vagina owner can rent out her vagina. It's just like renting out your car or using your oven to bake a cake for someone else. The fact that wombs and vaginas are an indivisible part of a human being, that sex and pregnancy are intimately experienced as something that happens to that human as a person, that babies belong in the most profound sense to their mothers and mothers to their babies, is quietly put to one side and ignored. How could those things be commodified if we acknowledged that? We are right back to the place where women are slaves, to be used for their sexual, reproductive and domestic labour as cheaply as possible. So much for "progressive politics".

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Elizabeth Moorchild's avatar

Well said!

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LeAnne Owen's avatar

Thank you

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EyesOpen's avatar

Thank you! I restacked.

I am not a body with a vagina nor a gestational parent. I am a woman and a mother. I am disgusted with people who demean women and mothers and many others with this debasing use of manipulated language. Thank you for exposing this disgusting and disrespectful mission by activists to destroy the goodness of language and people.

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Stosh Wychulus's avatar

SF librarians have been told not to say your mother or father but your guardian.

I volunteer with an organization in Oakland and have been instructed not to say your son or daughter but your child. Volunteers with American Conservatory Theater are not to say sir or mam. when addressing a patron. The plague is far-reaching here.

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Feisty Amazon's avatar

Drove me crazy before I left the Bay Area in 2013. Much worse now. But I tell them " I don't play the pronoun game!!

As a Butch Lesbian I fought hard enuff to be PROUD OF THE FEMALE I AM!!

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Reese's avatar

Preach it, Sister! Proud butch here, too. B4B!

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Lisa Simeone's avatar

Good grief!!

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Andrea Beatrice Reed's avatar

"Your guardian"?!

"Your child" sounds benign. Why specify if there's no confusion?

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Feisty Amazon's avatar

A " Guardian" is different than.a Mother or Father. One is born to the parents or adopted. A Guardian is an inbetween LEGAL designation for kids whose parents could not parent. I have a family member who IS a Guardian because the Mother was not a responsible person.

Utter nonsense this assault on language and compelling us to cooperate. Nope, I won't.

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LeAnne Owen's avatar

It must be hard. Orwell so influences me language is vital.

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LeAnne Owen's avatar

Thank you

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

Translating medical articles from English must be a nightmare nowadays. If you are bilingual or multilingual, try translating any of these terms like "egg producer" , "chestfeeder", "birthing parent" to another language.

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Andy's avatar

Yep but it's also a Grift That Keeps Giving to those running courses on inclusive langauge

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GenderRealistMom's avatar

I love “the grift that keeps giving”

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LeAnne Owen's avatar

Me too

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Michele H.'s avatar

Great essay. It truly is about so much more than being “polite” or “kind.”

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kilye dron's avatar

Yes-and we must ask ourselves if going along with others delusions (some of which will lead to lifelong mutilation), is actually Kind at all. Or if it’s simply easier than holding the line of truth, which is helpful for mentally unwell folks who are so confused as to believe they could actually Alter their reality by submitting to surgical experimentation

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Sarah Barker's avatar

This is dead on! Gender ideology has been likened to a religion; religion and gender ideology are, at heart, about control, particularly control of women.

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Stosh Wychulus's avatar

I'm thinking cult more than just religion.

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Amy Nesbitt's avatar

Yes, I’ve heard UK academic, Helen Joyce, call the ideology a “godless neo-religion.” I learned from Joyce when it came to declaring pronouns, to just say, “sorry, I’m not religious.” We women won’t wheesht!

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Andy's avatar

My take is that once ideologically inspired langauge is out there and in use, then style guides and dictionaries have to accommodate it.

A dictionary’s job is to record language as it is used, i.e. to be what linguists would call descriptive (rather than prescriptive).

I’m less forgiving of style guides or medical publications - very few of which are putting up any resistance to the ideological onslaught.

A book I was reading recently had various sections on cancer treatments - wherever there was a choice of using plain biology-based language or gender ideology-based language, the author opted for the latter. Some examples:

- “the majority of breast cancers are diagnosed in people who are biologically female”

- “the vast majority of breast cancers occur in people born with female sex organs”

- “a broader range of women* with ovarian cancer” was footnoted with “* or anyone born with ovaries”

Why not just place a note at the start of the book to make it clear that women refers to biological women only? The author or publisher preferred to infuse their text with ideology than to risk incurring the wrath of activists.

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BeadleBlog's avatar

Do not comply. Just say No!

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Susan Scheid's avatar

Superb essay. You all just get better and better—and you started at a VERY high bar of excellence. I have restacked.

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Lisa Ann Thomson's avatar

Oh my gosh. THANK YOU for writing this article! I am an editor and I have been saying this for YEARS! They are controlling our language as a way of controlling us! This is a really important article. Thank you!!!

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Theresa Gee's avatar

"When words lose their connection to reality, truth becomes subjective, and meaning becomes meaningless."

Here's a sample of the above by a master bullshitter, the renowned queer 'thinker', Judith Butler, at her finest:

"The move from a structuralist account in which capital is understood to structure social relations in relatively homologous ways to a view of hegemony in which power relations are subject to repetition, convergence, and rearticulation brought the question of temporality into the thinking of structure, and marked a shift from a form of Althusserian theory that takes structural totalities as theoretical objects to one in which the insights into the contingent possibility of structure inaugurate a renewed conception of hegemony as bound up with the contingent sites and strategies of the rearticulation of power."

The word-lies take many forms! Fortunately this one self-destructs from it's own excess.

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Frau Katze's avatar

Talk about word salad!

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Reese's avatar

A single sentence - NINE LINES. That chick (and her knuckles) would not have lasted a day in Catholic School.

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Stosh Wychulus's avatar

“When I use a word,’ Humpty Dumpty said in rather a scornful tone, ‘it means just what I choose it to mean — neither more nor less.’

’The question is,’ said Alice, ‘whether you can make words mean so many different things.’

’The question is,’ said Humpty Dumpty, ‘which is to be master — that’s all.”

This is about who does get to be the "master". Little did Alice know.

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Andrea Beatrice Reed's avatar

… "there's a nice knock-down argument!"

"That's a great deal to make one word mean," Alice said in a thoughtful tone.

"When I make a word do a lot of work like that," said Humpty Dumpty, "I always pay it extra."

"Oh!" said Alice. She was too much puzzled to make any other remark.

These words are being made to mean too much and too little.

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Tracye's avatar

Excellent reference!

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Alta Ifland's avatar

This is a very good essay and I congratulate you for it. But I have an unrelated question: why are you called "LGBT..." ? Why are you using "their" language?

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Andrea Beatrice Reed's avatar

I was just about to ask why you have the T in your name, but Alta beat me to it. This is reality-based LGBs distinguishing themselves from the "T".

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LeAnne Owen's avatar

Stay tuned

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Deb Leamy's avatar

This right here: “Reality is obfuscated by enforced language, as writers are instructed to prioritize identity claims over clear communication.”

#nailedIT

Thank you for this well and accurately written piece.

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Ollie Parks's avatar

If the Trump administration manages to be organized and focused, federal strongholds of queerspeak such as the National Institutes of Health may rediscover biology and common sense. The "chestfeeding parent" era will seem like a bad dream.

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Gerda Ho's avatar

Let’s hope so, but even Trump can’t do it all . The rest of us have to speak out against this.

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Frau Katze's avatar

He can only affect organizations that receive federal funding.

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Reese's avatar

EVERYONE nurses at the Federal teat.

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Gerda Ho's avatar

The gender cult is one of the most dangerous and authoritarian cults in recent history. This cult knows that changing language is obtaining power. They have learned this from dictators and now they are dictating what the rest of society can say and what words are acceptable to them.

This cannot continue, and we must resist by never using their words. Their actions and words are built on lies and on bullying. Nothing they say is true. We must respond with the truth .

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Lucy Leader's avatar

Changing the meaning of words is also a way of incorporating lies, myths and untruths into the public domain. It is also a dominance move, because if you can be forced to pretend that nonsense is real, the sky is the limit on all the other crap that follows. https://lucyleader.substack.com/p/misinformation-disinformation-and

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