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Dear Brian,

Thank you for publishing Jennifer Block's article on the controversies around "gender-affirming" care. I became a subscriber to the Globe today as a direct result of this article.

I'm a mom who was told by our "highly-credentialed" medical and mental health professional team (at Child MInd Institute, Mt. Sinai Adolescent Health and otehrs) to transition our mentally ill daughter at age 12. It nearly killed her. It led to three hospitalizations and a suicide attempt and her autism was ignored and remained undiagnosed for years.  All of her emotional, social and behavioral problems were attributed to her dysphoria.  This was the wrong diagnosis and it nearly destroyed her.

When she requested exogenous hormones and radical mastectomy we started to dig into the studies. The more we looked into the research after visiting an endocrinologist at Mt Sinai, the more realized we had been lied to, manipulated and brainwashed by "medical professionals" in ways that led to iatrogenic harm for our child.

After 4 years of transition (during several of which we were actively affirming, buying binders, etc.), our daughter has desisted. 

At 16, she emerged as a bright, quirky, stereo-type nonconforming young woman who understands the harms that gender ideology caused her psyche, her socialization, her body and her family relationships. 

Self-acceptance is not conversion therapy; it is beautiful. 

In my daughter's words, she has emerged from the gender fog as "a fully healed human being" who accepts her healthy body for all its wonder and believes she is beautiful as she is--even if not in stereotypical ways.

I always had a daughter, but now I have her back.

Now I'm desperately trying to raise awareness with journalists, practitioners and advocates about the way gender-affirming care harms gay, autistic, and dysphoric youth. I have found that most practitioners are unaware of the studies, the lack of evidence or the iatrogenic harms they are causing with the cavalier "American model" of affirmation only. In fact, in our state, anything other than affirmation is illegal--even when transition proved to be nontherapeutic--and even harmful.

Kids are being harmed. Families are being torn apart. The medical and mental health professionals are shaming themselves.

Thank you for raising the voice of concern,

Sincerely,

Mom of desisted ROGD teen

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Anastasia's avatar

This is the way to change. The more we speak the more we write, the more the light of day shines on the darkness.

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